He has stood beside his future bride through almost every step of the wedding planning process. He’s been to appointment after appointment, knows the difference between an orchid and a lily and heck, he can even knows royal blue and power blue really are two different colors.
It’s not that men don’t appreciate all that hard work that goes into a wedding, but in reality, it’s the bride who is the star of a wedding. The bride is turning her fantasy into reality as she organizes the exact scene that she’s held in her mind since childhood.
He did ask her to marry him and he’s looking forward to their life together, but before he takes that step, there’s one moment that really all about him: the bachelor party.
It’s finally the man’s turn to be the lead. The bachelor party is the only thing that completely focuses on the groom. Bachelor party planning is about celebrating both his life as a single man and his new role as a husband.
The best man is generally the one who will plan the bachelor party. The best man needs to be the lead, but the ushers should be there to assist. Finding out what the groom wants to do on his final night of freedom should be the first order of business for the best man.
It’s a bit of a stereotype to say that every guy is dreaming of scantily clad woman upon his lap. However, depending on the groom age and shall we say “life experience” he may see this as his final opportunity to “go out with a bang” before closing the deal as it were.
But, again, this really should be the groom’s choice. If he wants a wild last night of “what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas” well, there are gentleman’s club in most cities where, the best man and ushers can plan an adventurous evening. However, if the groom isn’t interested in this kind of thing, you are going to need some options.
Maybe the groom only has eyes for his future spouse and isn’t interested in seeing what other women might have to offer. Hey, that’s acceptable too. Head to a gamers’ club instead of a gentleman’s club; at an adult arcade, you can have your video games, grab a snack, and get your drink on too.
Is the groom sports minded? Take in a local sporting event. If you’re looking for a few days away, there’s always a “boy’s weekend” of camping or backpacking. Consider getting all of the guys together for a serious game of paint ball. It’s a great way to spend an evening en masse and calm some nerves. You can dodge the dilemma of who has to be designated driver by hiring a limo. That way everybody at the party gets to relax and have fun.
Lots of guys do awesome planning the party until it comes to the guest list and who’s getting the bill. So, who do you ask to the festivities? The fiancé, the bride’s father, and any other male family members are undoubtedly on the list. The ushers are other apparent men on the invite list.
When in confusion about the bachelor party guest list, consult the bride to be. Not only can she give you a complete list of appropriate people to invite, but she can probably add addresses and telephone numbers too. Since you’ve already got the ball rolling, you might as well take the opportunity to discover what sort of bachelor party business would upset her. If you’re a true friend, you won’t want to create any future problems.
Splitting costs can be a bit complicated. Maybe luck will be with you and either the bride’s or the groom’s father will offer to pay for the bachelor party. If you’re not quite so fortunate, estimate the overall cost of the bachelor party and then share it equally among everybody who will be in attendance. Remember to figure in relative cost of tips at each separate activity. Oh, and leave the future husband out of your accounting; you don’t want him paying for anything.
Whatever else the bachelor party may symbolize, it is the time to relax and have fun. They use the term “best man” for a reason; give the groom a perfect night to celebrate and remember.
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